Ease guilt is real.
Let’s talk about ease guilt. A verrrrrry sneaky money block that sabotages probably 90% of us!
If you’re sitting there like “Emily, I WISH I had ease guilt. Things are so f*cking hard right now”, then you actually might have it.
You might actually be blocking ease because of the subconscious fear or guilt around things being too easy.
Let’s start by talking about the dream - “make money while you sleep”.
And a little while ago I did a flash sale of a course that I have and the sales started coming in while I was sleeping - the DREAM, right?!
Yes, BUT, I saw the sales come through and then almost instantly my brain went to…
“You need to do more to deserve that.”
“You need to set up a bonus Facebook group for these ladies.”
“You need to give them extra bonus calls.”
“ You need to personally reach out to every single person who buys it to make sure that they're doing okay with it to make sure that they're enjoying it”.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
I was just like, “What the? Like what's happening here? Emily, this is a dream you've dreamt of having these systems in place and the money could come in all that.
I was talking to a couple of my clients who also were feeling this guilt...
One network marketing client of mine was on a dream vacation and they found themselves saying, “I feel so bad. Who am I to be the one on the vacation while my team is back home hustling their butts off and I get to be the one to reap the rewards?”.
Another client of mine shared, “Who am I to have the beautiful home? The salary I desire? The time freedom? While my staff is working on my behalf”.
So, as you can imagine, this sucks, right?
What ease guilt comes up for you?
…hiring a sitter to give yourself time to focus on you and then you feel bad?
…maybe you don't have to think twice about buying something and a friend of yours does, so you feel guilty.
…Or the classic, “it’s too good to be true” feeling you get when things are going TOO well. You convince yourself that it’s just a fluke.
EASE. FREAKING. GUILT.
Guilt shows up in many, many different ways.
All right. So what do we do about it?
Remind yourself, “I deserve to be that woman”.
Something struck me a few months ago when I said to myself, I deserve to be that woman. Instantly things shifted for me. We subconsciously (or consciously) separate ourselves from others more “successful” than us out there thinking they are more qualified, more attractive, have it easier, etc. It’s all bullshit. You get to be that woman.
Place your hands on your heart and just say yourself, “I deserve to be that woman”. Notice how good it feels?
2. Know that it's not your fault that you have ease guilt.
The generations before us grew up with the “working hard” mentality ingrained in them. So, most of the time we’re taking on their beliefs, instead of checking in with ourselves. A great exercise I like to do when I feel unease within is place my hand on my heart, close my eyes and ask myself, “who does this belong to?”. Is it mine, or is it someone else’s belief I’ve taken on as my own? And that typically gives me instant release especially if I realize it doesn’t belong to me.
3. Stop saying these three words - “I feel bad”.
We say it so, so, so much. Essentially what you're saying is “I feel guilty”, “I don't deserve this”, or “who am I to have this?”. So what can you do instead?
Stop, drop, and roll.
You're going to stop it - stop the words from coming out of your mouth.
You're going to drop into your heart.
Lastly, you're going to roll with what you just learned, “who does this belong to?”
It's safe for you to have the ease, it's safe for you to have it all. It's safe for you to have more. You deserve to have what you desire. Where there is a vision in your heart, there is provision from the universe to make it happen.
Lean into the comfort and support of the Universe, and you will be blessed beyond your wildest dreams.
Download the Manifesting Meditations as well if you haven’t already because they will also help you immensely with any ease guilt.